So I met this guy in a large group gathering about 6ish weeks ago. I decided to ask him on a date a few weeks later. I said something to the effect of "let's go out sometime so we can get to know each other better." He said, "yeah, let's get lunch or something." I said, "lunch would be good."
Very low key. It seemed like it would be interesting and a valid use of an hour of my time.
But then, it was my Spring Break and I went out of town, so nothing was ever set up. And then I got sick and was out of it for a week. Then another week went by and I said, "when are we going to go to lunch?" He said, "I don't know, I can't this weekend, I'm going to Salt Lake." Since then, our conversations have been, "Hi", "Hi."
I'm pretty annoyed. I thought the hard part was over. I said I would be willing to spend an hour with you alone. Isn't that enough? But why isn't he saying let's go X day. Or can you go X day?
I'm not accustomed to the actual asking. I think my technique wasn't very good. I should have been specific. Let's go out on X day. However, I've been told that it's still not great for the girl to do the asking in the first place. I'm not sure that I agree with that.
And I think that my life circumstances call for more action on my part because I spend 12 hours a day in the library. I just don't have time to touch a guy's elbow three times to ensure that something will happen. I'm in a phase of "if you want something done, you have to do it yourself," so why not ask a guy out.
So that's the story. Is this guy just not interested? If he's not interested, why wouldn't he just say, I'm not interested. Or plan a lunch and after say, you know, I don't think I'm interested. It's not like lunch is a big commitment. I don't even know the kid and I haven't been dying to go out with him forever.
Do I just not worry about it and move on?
Or do I ask again, "hey are we going to lunch?" Am I sounding desperate? I don't feel desperate. Or care either way if I actually go on a date with this guy. I'd just like to know if it's going to happen or not. At least so I can at least track my success rate for asking guys out on dates.
* And just in case you were wondering the fate of my life. I decided to take the unpaid internship in Chicago because it turned out to be a better opportunity (minus the lack of $10K). So if you know of anyone subletting an apt in Chicago starting in May, please let me know.
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Hmm... that's a tricky one. I guess at this point, I'd let him decide if he wanted to go out with me. I mean, you already expressed interest so now it's his turn to respond?
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