These are my random thoughts that I've been wanting to somehow turn into a blog post, but they really have no rhyme or reason...
I've been thinking lately about "breaking up" with friends. Normally, a friendship just kinds of drifts apart, but I wonder if people ever 'break up' with their friends. I try to be a good friend (let's face it, I don't have that many close friends, so beggars shouldn't be choosy) and sometimes I feel shafted on the return. But overall, friendship is just like any relationship, a little bit of give and take. Life is crazy, and I feel blessed to have people in my life that make it better.
In other random thoughts...
“Losing your mind is not a luxury for the middle class” – PS, I Love You (not a very good movie). Sometimes we think money will solve all of our problems, but if had to choose between being rich and insane, or sane and working for a living, I choose to keep my mind. It's one of the best things I've got.
"We believe that people are shy not because they lack social skills but because they haven't practiced them sufficiently" ... "Talking on the phone or asking someone on a date is a learnable skill, exactly like a tennis forehand. The key is that people have to linger in that uncomfortable area, learn to tolerate the anxiety. If you practice, you can get to the level you want." ... This is what I read for a class this week. At least my lack of social skills can be corrected! ;)
This was a little random, but it's how I've been feeling lately. A little random.
6 comments:
so you are saying that I should be expecting an "it's not you, it's me" email sometime soon? :(
haha... nope. I'm trying to work on maintaining relationships, but I just think that if I feel like the relationship is work, is the relationship worth it? I understand that life is crazy, but if you cancel on me 15 minutes before we do something every single time, I'm going to stop making the effort because it's really frustrating to me.
I'm sure that you don't get your return on investment from me because I'm always asking you to help me with things. But if I end up in DC, I'll babysit! :)
When I was growing up, my dad used to force us to make telephone calls (like to find out if a store was open before we went there), and we all hated it. Maybe I should be grateful that he was giving us all that practice. Not that it helped much, because I still hate making phone calls. But I actually find it really easy to make calls to strangers, so I guess it was worth something.
P.S. I hope you don't break up with me, or that you at least wait until after the play on Saturday, because otherwise that would be just awkward... :)
So, I should refrain from the BYU joke edging out just in case, but it's too tempting. Was that (The Talent Code) something you read for one of your law classes or just for fun? Because I want to know what dating has to do with the law, outside of sexual harassment?
I've only broken off a couple of friendships, mostly where it conflicted with the relationship-interest. :( Mostly I just "fall out of friendship" instead of love. And, just a couple of friends that pretend we haven't broken up, when really we did. :P Mostly I just insist that people see me and how they understand that I show how much I care but always stopping by when I'm in town.
I'm not planning on breaking up with anyone that reads my blog. (At least not right now...) :) And I'm really excited for Peter Pan!
I'm reading the Talent Code for a counseling class because we're learning that as lawyers you counsel a lot of clients but you don't really learn the skill or practice it and it can really be done better if you do. Overall, the whole concept is that if you do "deliberate practice" you will perform much better than in other circumstances.
I think most friendships just fall away, and I'm ok with that I guess. But I don't want to consistently make plans to be cancelled on. That is really annoying to me.
And I don't know what you mean by the BYU joke edging out...
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