Non-dating

Back in March, I set a goal to go on one date a month. Unfortunately, I've gone on 0 dates since March. I'm guessing it's my personality.

I mean, one of my really close friends said to me, "Well, even really pretty girls aren't getting asked out."* So I knew it couldn't be just  my average looks. 

I even made a bet with a friend of mine, that the first of us to get asked out on a date by someone we actually wanted to go out with, the other would have to buy the "winner" a $25 Amazon gift card. The purpose was to motivate us to flirt. And so I could a buy space heater for my office. 

It's been 6 months and we've only been asked out by guys that we're not interested in, if asked out at all.

If you are my friend on Facebook, you might remember that I posted this article earlier this year. "The end of courtship." I mean, I guess my friend is right to an extent -- even the really pretty girls aren't getting asked out. 

I will draw attention to this quote from the article again: “I’ve seen men put more effort into finding a movie to watch on Netflix Instant than composing a coherent message to ask a woman out.”

So apparently I need to be more proactive. Maybe like Amy Webb. I'm no good a javascript or Japanese, but she has some good points. So maybe I'll take another look at online dating and see if I can hack the system like she did. But I don't know if I have 72 points that I'm looking for in a significant other. 

Seriously, if you didn't watch this Ted Talk, go back and watch it. This is what they should have taught at the "Online Dating" class at the mid-singles conference last weekend.

*Ouch. Thanks, friend. Even if it's true, it still stings.